If someone has had an unpleasant experience with someone or many people, why would they not want the situation to be rectified after they had been hurt? I have a few answers and I want to see what anybody else thinks about it
Now I use generic terms in this, (i.e. "people") but a lot of what I know comes from personal experience. (I learn a lot from the people I see around me, as well as from myself.)
What I find is that a lot of the time get caught up in their bitterness. I can't exactly explain why (at least not coherently), but sometimes I think people savor being hurt just a little bit.
Or possibly people feel too offended to 'forgive,' and move on. A lot of the time they can't be expected to forgive. There's the phrase 'forgive and forget' which is kind of cliche, but if you look at it, you have a few different kinds of people, the kind who forgive and forget, those who forget but not forgive, those who forgive but not forget, and those who do neither.
I personally find I fall under the third category. :/
I can't really give any one reason why people act the way they do. People are complex things with different motivations. I'm not even sure why I do things sometimes.
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Now I use generic terms in this, (i.e. "people") but a lot of what I know comes from personal experience. (I learn a lot from the people I see around me, as well as from myself.)
What I find is that a lot of the time get caught up in their bitterness. I can't exactly explain why (at least not coherently), but sometimes I think people savor being hurt just a little bit.
Or possibly people feel too offended to 'forgive,' and move on. A lot of the time they can't be expected to forgive. There's the phrase 'forgive and forget' which is kind of cliche, but if you look at it, you have a few different kinds of people, the kind who forgive and forget, those who forget but not forgive, those who forgive but not forget, and those who do neither.
I personally find I fall under the third category. :/
I can't really give any one reason why people act the way they do. People are complex things with different motivations. I'm not even sure why I do things sometimes.
I think most people would fall under the third category. It's almost instinct not to forget.
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